tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post5217079085530163720..comments2024-03-10T00:27:34.061-08:00Comments on Pregosaur: Twenty-Eight WeeksPregosaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09724388599239359904noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post-87018427216051606592009-11-19T13:56:39.754-08:002009-11-19T13:56:39.754-08:00Sorry you're having such a tough time. Don'...Sorry you're having such a tough time. Don't worry too much. You are going to do great. Be firm and stand your ground, don't be pushed into anything you are uncomfortable with, but you can still have a good hospital birth without compromising your wishes too much. Good luck and hope you feel better soon.WSMhttp://babybecomesbump.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post-324365258540741272009-11-10T22:47:00.919-08:002009-11-10T22:47:00.919-08:00I'm one of those people who is terrified of ho...I'm one of those people who is terrified of hospitals. I went to the ER two years ago for an asthma attack. I went in not being able to breath but then had a massive panick attack (the one and only i've ever had) and even though they wanted to admit me I had to leave. So I'm going into this whole pregnancy thing PRAYING they don't find any reason to consider me "high risk" so I can just do it at home (or in a birthing center). <br /><br />But if a hospital is your only option there's realy not much you can do. I just question a lot of their procedures like you do. I also wonder, if you were to whip out a bag of chips to munch on, what are they going to do? If you remove the monitor, what are they going to do? Kick you out of the hospital? I don't think hospitals can really force you to do these things. They can suggest and tell you you HAVE to do them, but they can't actually force you. Create a birth plan and go over these things with your doctors and tell THEM what you are comfortable and not comfortable with. If they have a legitimate and good reason for a certain protocol, adjust your birth plan. But if they can't give you a good reason, request that you be allowed to labor your way. I don't know what you can get out of it, but at least you will know you tried.<br /><br />And you are NOT a bad Mom!!! You are and will be wonderful to little Libby!Rockasaurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06015779599527368445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post-3200278024592126192009-11-10T15:28:10.621-08:002009-11-10T15:28:10.621-08:00Hi Divasaur,
I can totally understand where you ar...Hi Divasaur,<br />I can totally understand where you are coming from! I did a ton of research before even thinking about trying to conceive, and I know that I would like a calming environment with as few unnecessary interventions as possible. It sounds like you feel the same way. I think a midwife might be able to help, and if you can find a hospital where they are in good standing they can act as a middle person to make sure your birth plan gets carried out as much as possible. I live in Canada and my midwife has assured me that unless something drastic happens herself and her assistant will be the ones to deliver the baby in a calm, safe, environment free of all medication etc. <br /><br />I would personally love to give birth at home, but my husband and his family will not even entertain that idea for a second. As much as a healthy baby should be the goal at the end of all this, everyone should keep in mind that that is hard to think about that while in the middle of such pain and unable to be in control of what is happening around you. It's a blessing that you know what doesn't feel right now rather than when it's too late. Make sure to talk to your Doula too as that's what she's there for- to support you, and she may have some ideas about different birth options. <br /><br />You sound like an incredibly strong woman, and I think you are doing a great job! I'm glad you know what you want and are fighting to get it. This is one example of how you are a great mother already, and your daughter will learn this from you. <br /><br />I felt the same way as Citysaur in that it's so hard to just write comments when it's so much easier to talk! My thoughts are with you and if you want to talk I'm here too just send me an email at my primaverasaur address!Primaverasaurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00472148716956739131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post-28800013711485216562009-11-10T14:26:51.268-08:002009-11-10T14:26:51.268-08:00I will send some hugs your way. I hate to hear yo...I will send some hugs your way. I hate to hear you doubt yourself, you are already a great mother by taking such great care of yourself, and 25 pounds is a big deal you should be proud of that. I wish you the best and hope it all works out for you in the end.Relaxasaurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15250843322020643505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post-67723479158281254402009-11-10T12:57:08.057-08:002009-11-10T12:57:08.057-08:00If you think there's a chance that the GD test...If you think there's a chance that the GD test was wrong, I'd absolutely do the 3 hour test - GD is no fun, so if it was just a testing error, I'd definitely want to be sure (even if it meant having to give up a little of my leave). <br /><br />I also agree with Anonymous - the end goal is a healthy baby. I know that may end up meaning that you might (might!) have to do things outside of your preferred birth plan, but keep your eye on the prize. I'm beyond terrified at the idea of giving birth to twins - sure it can absolutely happen the way I want it (no drugs, etc.) but there's also a 50% chance I'll need a scheduled C-section, and a chance that even if I can start naturally, I'll need an emergency C-section to get the second baby out (which, oddly, freaks me out more than the idea of the scheduled C-section). These are both FAR from my ideal, but I'm trying remember that what we want, in the end, are two healthy babies. <br /><br />You can do this - and even though it's hard, I know you can probably find a way to do it the way you want, too!Bibliosaurhttp://www.pregosaur.com/search/label/Bibliosaurnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post-54699079052405950582009-11-10T12:01:42.666-08:002009-11-10T12:01:42.666-08:00Don't be so hard on yourself! We've all ha...Don't be so hard on yourself! We've all had our bad days/weeks...especially with all the hormones through pregnancy!<br />I'm an RN in Canada (I work in the OR) and I feel very much the same as you...no induction, no c-section. I gained 65 lbs during my pregnancy which put me/left me in the obese category. I also had a 9lb baby!!! I went into labor on my own at 38 wks, ended up with epidural/pitocin, membranes being ruptured, vacuum failed x 3, and finally forceps! I was so let down with my delivery...in fact I was traumitized by it...it was all I could think of for months! But I'm happy to report that I am now over it (my babe is 8 mths) and am looking forward to the next one. It's really true what they say...it's important to have a healthy baby--even if it means all the interventions. I know, as a nurse, that there are way too many interventions in deliveries now...but I also know as a nurse that they are doing it to protect themselves, but also to protect you and your baby. Just remember--you'll have a prize worth keeping at the end of the marathon!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post-25651020212038007962009-11-10T11:49:52.537-08:002009-11-10T11:49:52.537-08:00You're not a bad mom...we all have days like t...You're not a bad mom...we all have days like this. I hope that things start to brighten up for you.Luckysaurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11105103775110048292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post-72946978041954818002009-11-10T11:33:17.040-08:002009-11-10T11:33:17.040-08:00Don't be discouraged! I felt so down for you ...Don't be discouraged! I felt so down for you when I read your post. Check to see if the hospital will allow you to bring popsicles. Some hospitals have mini-refrigerator/freezer in the rooms. Most of my friends weren't hungry until after they delivered. Also, check to see if your doctor/hospital will allow you to just have the iv put in but not hooked up to anything. It will be good to have in place should you start to hemmorage post-birth. One of my friends wanted a more natural experience much like what you are describing and was able to just have it put in but not hooked up. <br /><br />If all else fails, resort to bribery! Works for me. Plan out little "Thank you" bags for your nurses and doctor so that you can earn some brownie points. Another friend packed mints, lotion, a $5 gift card to starbucks, chapstick, and hair ties in the goodie bags and felt like her nurses gave her plenty of attention and compassion (let's hope one would do so without bribery but it can't hurt). <br /><br />Seriously though, keep your chin up! All of this will be worth it when you get to see Libby for the first time :-)Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08397762196878497022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1468678068770802199.post-22160370598944038642009-11-10T11:07:01.020-08:002009-11-10T11:07:01.020-08:00Divasaur, I really wish we could talk on the phone...Divasaur, I really wish we could talk on the phone, or at least via e-mail. What you are feeling is not abnormal at all - and I would feel exactly the same way in your situation. I have so much to say, I really don't want to say it all in this comment box - so please e-mail me. I just want to come and give you a big hug and say get thee away from the hospital and to a birth center! I know that's not necessarily an option for you, but I know you would have a much better experience with a midwife at a birth center.<br /><br />And you are NOT a bad mother, you are a wonderful mother! You're doing everything you should be doing for little Libby - even eating low GI foods and monitoring your glucose levels at home. You should be proud of that! And saving up all your hours of leave time - you should be proud of that too! <br /><br />I can't say enough how empathetic I am of your situation. Seriously, e-mail me at my citysaur address. We should talk. **HUGS**Citysaurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18378492093039746185noreply@blogger.com